EFSJ Pesonality

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The colorful depiction of the EFSJ personality
How many colors make up the perfect picture? How many hues and tints blend together? How much makes up the background and what tints are the more decorative that seem to draw us to the entire picture? These are questions I have asked myself in regards to the temperament type I have been labeled with. According to the Keirsey temperament sorter my type is the provider guardian. There are indeed many aspects of the provider guardian I exhibit as I look inwardly to my self. Extreme sensitivity and empathy, wearing my heart on my sleeve, and the battle of self versus self are all traits I find abundantly in myself.
As an ESFJ, Keirsey states, “[my type is] extremely sensitive to the feelings to others” (par. 3). I possess a strongly empathetic personality. I am able to put myself in place of others as situations see fit. Not only do I imagine what others may be going through, I also tend to have the ability to share their emotions at that particular time. For example, when caring for a dying patient I often step inside the box and feel the loss of their family and friends. This often leads to an emotional support I can offer to others through knowing how they are feeling.
Unfortunately, there is a down side to being a more emotional type. As Butt states
ESFJs “wear their heart on their sleeves” (par 5). This often leads to deep emotional bonds with others as well as deeper hurt when there is an end to that connection. It is very easy to be drawn to another person, and once the walls of the guardian provider have been lowered it is all or nothing. I am someone who at first is distrustful and wary of love, but when I have been won over I am completely committed. This trait often leaves me open for being self-sacrificial, which Butt also states is a common trait for my type, and can inhibit me from being happy at times. For instance, in my last relationship I was constantly sacrif...