Child Development

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Attachment in childhood is related to functioning in adulthood. Due to the dependency on their parents, children are raised to live by their parents, cultural standards of living. Following rules, helping care for elders and younger children, and most importantly staying with parents throughout a lifetime in order to help with agricultural businesses are common among eastern and Spanish countries. Children are raised with a fear of being disowned or denied by the family if these rules are not followed (Usita 2001). It is understood that if the children are disowned, they are left with absolutely nothing. Family, money and a “name” is all stripped due to the lack of respect placed on one’s family. Because of the strict living standards, these children who have now grown into adulthood are left to believe that they are in need of their parent’s acceptance, and therefore begin to raise their own children in the same manner (Tsao 2000). Their decisions are now that of a communal affair. They do not move away,
In the story of the Japanese immigrant daughter who wanted to move away from her mother to attend college, her decision to move away was seen of abandonment and disrespect (Tsao 2000). It was explained that her mother had taken care of her own mother, which was something that was practiced culturally, and was a sign of respect and gratitude for the care and food that was provided when she was a child. Her care for her mother was not that of a hassle, but one that was due to every young person when their parents grew old. When Sou-Young decided to move away from her home and attend a school in another part of California, her mother did not see it as an accomplishment, but a sign of ignorance and disrespect (Tsao 2000). The idea of children forming an attachment upon their parents seems to be implemented in the good spirit of parents becoming dependent upon their children as they age, forming interdependence.
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