Dysfunctional Families

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A Look at Dysfunctional Families
“We put the fun in dysfunctional!” is a common saying heard from within the
walls of my house. My family is not the expected average healthy family, but I feel my
dysfunctional family is not the worst-case scenario. After surviving many unpleasant
fights and divorce, I came to the realization that many other families have it even harder.
I believe alcoholism, controlling parents, and abuse are the three main influences in a
dysfunctional family. To lengthen my observation I reviewed the patterns and common
behaviors between each effect.
Parents that are too controlling over their child’s life can definitely make a family
dysfunctional. Controlling parents fail to allow their children to assume responsibilities
appropriate for their age. These parents continue dominating and making decisions for
their children well beyond the age at which this is necessary. Controlling parents are
often driven by a fear of becoming unnecessary to their children. The main
problem in this behavior reflects on the parents.
Alcoholic families tend to be chaotic and unpredictable. Rules that apply one day
don't apply the next. Promises are neither kept nor remembered. Parents may be strict at
times and indifferent at others. In addition, discussion about the alcohol use or related
family problems is usually nonexistent. Family members are usually expected to keep
problems a secret, therefore preventing anyone from seeking help. All of these factors
leave children feeling insecure, frustrated, and angry. This is one of the worst key

elements a dysfunctional family can have. Although the parent is an alcoholic they can be
both abusive and controlling at the same time.
Abuse can be verbal or physical. Verbal abuse, such as frequent belittling
criticism, can have lasting effects. Criticism can be aimed at the child's looks,
intelligence, capabilities, or basic value. Some ver...