Divorce

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In any case a divorce is something that is certainly not welcomed by anyone: mother, father or children. “A marriage is a bond between two people and often children are brought into scene and if a bond such as this is broken it can lead to severe consequences”. One consequence is a custody battle if children are involved. Another consequence is how the children will respond. This can be determined by many different factors such as; age and gender of the children. Boys therefore act differently than the girls and their age can be a deciding factor in this as well.
Boys take a longer amount of time to adjust, and they also tend to have more trouble with school, withdraw from social activities, and initiate fights with their schoolmates. Basically, boys cope by projecting their anger or hurt onto others. This is the case in little 9 year old Arturo when he says, “I am going to smash my father’s teeth.”(Gonzalez 347) This can be believed to be caused by males being naturally aggressive and after a traumatizing event it can lead to violence as he demonstrated.
Girls are thought to experience an emotional loss of their father, lower self-esteem, and often become more corrupt. They tend to deal with divorce more passively than boys. After the loosing their father girls often have a hard time in relationships with other male figures. They lose the closeness and security and have a hard time in trusting another male. They then began to look for affection from anyone and most of the time in wrong places. They will have anyone who will show them attention and raise their self esteem. The trust issues the girls have are still there and before long they find themselves entangled up with a different boy. “This can frequently happen for their whole lives and sometimes some never regain trust and end up never marrying.” (Eagan)
Other then have these side effects comes the actual custody battle itself. “Neither parent is entit...